Adolescence
Parents are often upset when their children praise the homes of their friends and regard
it as a slur on their own cooking, or cleaning, or furniture, and often are foolish enough
to let the adolescents see that they are annoyed. They may even accuse them of disloyalty,
or make some spiteful remark about the friends' parents. Such loss of dignity and descent
into childish behaviour on the part to their parents about the place or people they visit.
Before very long the parents will be complaining that the child is so secretive and never
tells them anything, but they seldom realize that they have brought this on themselves.
Disillusionment with the parents, however good and adequate they may be both as
parents and as individuals, is to some degree inevitable. Most children have such a high
ideal of their parents, unless the parents themselves have been unsatisfactory, that it can
hardly hope to stand up to a realistic evaluation. Parents would be greatly surprised and
deeply touched if they hope to stand up to a realistic evaluation. Parents would be greatly
surprised and deeply touched if they realized how much belief their children usually have
in their character and infallibility, and how much this faith means to a child. If parents were
prepared for this adolescent reaction, and realized that it was a sign that the child was
growing up and developing valuable powers of observation and independent judgment,
they would not be so hurt, and therefore would not drive the child into opposition by
resenting and resisting it.
The adolescent, with his passion for sincerity, always respects a parent who admits that
he is wrong, or ignorant, or even that he has been unfair or unjust. What the child cannot
forgive is the parent's refusal to admit these charges if the child knows them to be true.
Victorian parents believed that they kept their dignity by retreating behind an unreasoning
authoritarian attitude; in fact they did nothing of the kind, but children were then too
cowed to let them know how they really felt. Today we tend to go to the other extreme,
but on the whole this is a healthier attitude both for the child and the parent. It is always
wiser and safer to face up to reality, however painful it may be at the moment.
it as a slur on their own cooking, or cleaning, or furniture, and often are foolish enough
to let the adolescents see that they are annoyed. They may even accuse them of disloyalty,
or make some spiteful remark about the friends' parents. Such loss of dignity and descent
into childish behaviour on the part to their parents about the place or people they visit.
Before very long the parents will be complaining that the child is so secretive and never
tells them anything, but they seldom realize that they have brought this on themselves.
Disillusionment with the parents, however good and adequate they may be both as
parents and as individuals, is to some degree inevitable. Most children have such a high
ideal of their parents, unless the parents themselves have been unsatisfactory, that it can
hardly hope to stand up to a realistic evaluation. Parents would be greatly surprised and
deeply touched if they hope to stand up to a realistic evaluation. Parents would be greatly
surprised and deeply touched if they realized how much belief their children usually have
in their character and infallibility, and how much this faith means to a child. If parents were
prepared for this adolescent reaction, and realized that it was a sign that the child was
growing up and developing valuable powers of observation and independent judgment,
they would not be so hurt, and therefore would not drive the child into opposition by
resenting and resisting it.
The adolescent, with his passion for sincerity, always respects a parent who admits that
he is wrong, or ignorant, or even that he has been unfair or unjust. What the child cannot
forgive is the parent's refusal to admit these charges if the child knows them to be true.
Victorian parents believed that they kept their dignity by retreating behind an unreasoning
authoritarian attitude; in fact they did nothing of the kind, but children were then too
cowed to let them know how they really felt. Today we tend to go to the other extreme,
but on the whole this is a healthier attitude both for the child and the parent. It is always
wiser and safer to face up to reality, however painful it may be at the moment.
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