Much meaning can be conveyed, clearly, with our eyes, so it is often said
that eyes can speak. Do you have such kind of experience? In a bus you
may look at stranger, but not too long. And if he is sensing that he is
being stared at, he may feel uncomfortable. The same in daily life. If
you are looked at for more than necessary, you will look at yourself up
and down, to see if there is anything wrong with you. If nothing goes
wrong, you will feel angry toward other’s stare with you that way. Eyes
do speak, right? Looking too long at someone may seem to be rude and aggressive
. But things are different when it comes to stare at the opposite sex. If
a man glances at a woman for more than 10 seconds and refuses to avert
his gaze, his intentions are obvious, that is, he wishes to attract her
attention, to make her understand that he is admiring her. However, the
normal eye contact for two people engaged in conversation is that the
speaker will only look at the listener from time to time, in order to
make sure that the listener does pay attention to what the former is speaking
, to tell him that he is attentive. If a speaker looks at you continuously
when speaking, as if he tries to dominate you, you will feel disconcerted
. A poor liar usually exposes himself by looking too long at the victim
, since he believes in the false idea that to look straight in the eye
is a sign of honest communication. Quite the contrary. In fact, continuous
eye contact is confined to lovers only, who will enjoy looking at each
other tenderly for a long time, to show affection that words cannot express
. Evidently, eye contact should be done according to the relationship between
two people and the specific situation.